I recently (about one month ago) met a fellow on-line and wij have bot BF, GF for about three weeks now. Every one is worried about what will toebijten when wij eventually see each other for the very first time. I just want to meet him. I feel spil if I have known him for all my life. Wij talk all the time and he always tells mij that he loves mij. How can I be sure that what he says is what he truly means?
Please response mij.
Dear Lost te LOVE,
It seems like many people know at least one person who has met a fresh friend, activity playmate, and yes, even a love rente online. Te fact, according to Pew Research, one out of every ten Americans have used an online dating service or mobile app. While more and more people are beginning a relationship online (some of which end up being long-term), the process is not without its risks. It sounds like you’ve made a connection with a person and are interested te exploring that connection further. By taking some precautions, you can meet your online bf and begin to get a better idea of how he truly feels about you, and just spil fundamental, how you feel about him.
One creador to consider is that albeit you’ve communicated online and overheen the phone with your beau, he is still te many respects a stranger. Wij may wish it weren’t so, but people do lie about themselves online. Spil you determine whether or not to meet him, you may want to prepare yourself to overeenkomst with the possibility that he has not bot truthful about his age, job, background, relationship status, or other key aspects of his life.
Here are some tips for staying safe when meeting any online friend te person:
- Take your time. You don’t have to meet right away. Getting to know someone through email, messaging, and the phone will help you understand who they are and how interested you are te meeting.
- Meet te a public place, and bring a friend along. For example, you could meet at a shopping center and have your friend nearby. Not only can your friend help get you out of any goopy situations, s/he can also debrief with you straks about what you think of your fresh friend.
- Do not meet someone alone. If s/he insists on meeting alone, that is a big, flashing warning light. Someone who is truly interested ter you will be blessed to meet te public.
- Tell others where you’re going and why. Consider providing what voeling information you have for this person to a trusted friend. Some people also ask a friend to call them with an “emergency,” so they will have an excuse to leave if the meeting isn’t going well.
- Proceed to meet ter public for awhile. Don’t go huis with this person until you know hier/him well (knowing someone well includes knowing some of their friends, and having had some of your friends or family meet hier/him, knowing their living situation, and being able to speak openly with hier/him about what you are and are not comfy with).
Spil you can see, the main emphasis when meeting someone fresh is to let people who care about you know where you will be and who you will be with. Telling a friend or family member has the added benefit of creating a supportive network of people who will be able to discuss your feelings with you before and after you meet your online acquaintance.
Moving on to your question about if your online bf “truly means” when he says he loves you — no one can determine this except for you and him. It may help to ask yourself some questions, such spil:
- How do I feel about him telling mij he loves mij so often? Do I truly think that it’s possible for him to know he loves mij so soon, without meeting ter person?
- How do I feel about him, based on our conversations so far? Am I interested ter knowing him better?
- You mention that your friends and family are worried. Why is that? Are they worried for your safety? Are they afraid you will be disappointed when you meet your beau?
If you do meet him, a few different results are possible: you may find out you have bot deceived and feel disappointed, sad, confused or upset, you may find out he wasgoed truthful, but also realize that you are not truly interested te having a romantic relationship with him, or you may meet him and proceed to be interested te dating him. Even after meeting him (if you determine to), it may still take some time to understand his true feelings, this is simply the nature of getting to know someone — it takes time.
It’s clear from your question that you have made a connection with someone you feel understands you. Thesis types of connections are essential to have, and can turn into friendships and/or romantic relationships. However, remind yourself spil often spil you need to that there is no hurry, taking time to get to know someone is the best way to figure out your true feelings, spil well spil theirs.