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So I have bot talking to a number of pals who have bot running into a cycle of going on dates where it becomes fairly evident early te the practice that it is just not going to be a good match.
A lotsbestemming of people think gay dudes are finicky and maybe that is true to some extent however, I still there are very likely a number of universal very first date overeenkomst breakers that are exclusively linked exclusively to gay dudes.
I talked to several relationship counselors at about a topic that doesn’t get almost enough attention – very first dates.
What I learned is that the list I created wasgoed pretty much accurate.
According to Daniel Sullivan, licensed psychotherapist and gay dating experienced te Chicago, there does indeed emerge to be some significant things to keep ter mind when it comes to very first dates and gay dudes.
вЂњGay dudes have their own unique set of standards when it comes to datingвЂќ, says Sullivan.
вЂњIt is significant to recognize the differences, particularly when looking at topics like dating, relationships and potentially, marriage. You can often tell a good overeenkomst on a very first date.”
– Daniel Sullivan, Licensed Psychotherapist
What goes after are 10-gay very first date overeenkomst breakers. There are many more that could be added to this list but what goes after are the biggies!
Ten Gay Very first Date Overeenkomst Breakers
1. Dude is tipsy or high (or both)
Yep вЂ“ this one is a major overeenkomst breaker and it kleintje of makes no sense why somebody would voorstelling up to a very first date all high or messed up.
I am thinking this likely had to so with issues related to self-esteem and being fearful of rejection. Kleintje of an oxymoron if you ask mij. Under this point, guys that drink too much during a very first date can also be deal-breaker вЂ¦ at least for a lotsbestemming of guys I know.
Two. Dude is on his smart-phone
One of my friends collective that on the last Three dates he wasgoed on, the fellow pulled out his smart-phone during the date and commenced texting somebody. I personally think this is rude but can also understand that emergencies come up.
And yeah вЂ“ some people use the wise phone spil a way of вЂњgetting out of a gay dateвЂќ (and straight dates). It is an old trick. This one however still seems to be pretty high up there spil far spil overeenkomst breakers go.
Three. Dude asks too many questions
I can recall when I wasgoed on a few dates where it felt like I wasgoed interviewing for some job. I am not sure where the fine line is inbetween wanting to get to know somebody and crossing the line where the questions become offensive.
A lotsbestemming of dudes I know tell mij they choose to let the other person talk but if only one person is sharing, how can two people truly get to one another?
What are your gay very first date overeenkomst breakers?
Four. Dude doesn’t make enough money or too much money
This may seem like a shallow point but I want to keep it actual ter this list so that is why I am going there. If you are making a six figure salary, it is kleintje of hard to get serious about dating someone who is pulling te ondergrens wage.
A friend of mine recently met a hot dude and the two seem liked they had a loterijlot te common. Both of them were 40, both of them ter the same political party and both of them into sports, fitness and what have you. But the dude my friend went on a date with collective that he had bot unemployed for six-months and wasgoed working at McDonald’s.
Don’t get mij wrong, I am not judging here. Just telling that for a loterijlot of gay guys, that is a overeenkomst breaker (and straight people too). What do you think?
Five. Dude is too picky about food and entertainment
So yeah, this one seems goofy but I just know a lotsbestemming of people who call of a very first date before it starts because the dude they are interested te seems to be overly picky about where to eat or what to do on the very first date. And still other friends of mine have bot on a date with someone where the fellow took forever a day to order food because they insisted on вЂњfat freeвЂќ this and вЂњlow-calorieвЂќ that. Is this a bimbo reason to list spil a very first date overeenkomst breaker for gays?
6. Dude did not look like his photographs
I will never understand why someone would send a picture of themselves to someone else for the purposes of getting a very first day where the picture just not accurate. Here, I am talking about gay dudes using photographs that are Ten years old or when they were 30 pounds lighter. Call mij crazy but why play that spel? A overeenkomst breaker for sure and I am not sure there is much debate around this one.